The Lovely Addict was started at the tail end of 2008. It was supposed to be my personal online “diary” (remember those) about the woes of my dating life and a few of the harsh lessons I learned along the way. And it definitely was that. If you read back to some of the 2008 entries, believe me, I was at the bottom of the barrel. I was a wreck. But what eventually happened was that I grew up, and decided to share my experiences on how to get out of a bad relationship, build self-esteem, recognize personal values and recreate a stronger me.
There’s two blogs rolled into one: there’s The Lovely Addict, which posts featured articles on love addiction and recovery, and there’s The Break Up Journal, my personal, once-private, real-life diary of the daily unfolding of the most painful yet life-changing break-up of my life. It’s a great testament to where I was then versus now, and if anything, it should offer my readers hope, if not a bit of entertainment.
So, there’s lots of talk of love addiction here. But don’t let that scare you. You do not have to identify with love addiction to read, learn or find tips on how to develop a healthy a relationship or stand on your own two feet. What you do have to do is give this blog a chance, if you want to change your life. Why? Because whatever you call it, sometimes love hurts and it shouldn’t. And this blog is one of the best resources online for empowering women (and men!) to find the courage and resources to get out of bad, painful, lonely, sexless, sex-crazed, abusive, one-sided, undignified relationships. It can help you figure out what your values are, how and why to create boundaries for yourself, and how to believe, once and for all, that you no longer deserve “scraps,” especially when it concerns dating.
The mission of this site is simple: to help women and men learn to change their negative, false and imprisoning beliefs which keeps them anchored in toxic, addicting and/or abusive relationships through the use of education, self-empowerment and emotional support.
Blogger, author, activist, giver of relationship advice, I have written extensively on the topic of love addiction and recovery since 2008, appeared in the documentary Love Addict, by Pernille Rose Grønkjær and am currently working on my book, The Lovely Addict, a guide to dumping love addiction and finding yourself. This blog is my story about love, addiction, healthy recovery, self-empowerment and my work helping others feel better about themselves. I have created it for YOU, so that you can find peace in knowing that you are not alone and that a better life is possible. To read more about my life, please read My Story.